Supporting International Woman’s Day, we talk to one female resident about her experience of homelessness
Jane* was only 19 when she became homeless and ended up living at CENS. This International Women’s Day she shares her story about the challenges she’s faced and the brighter future she’s working towards.
“I was 19 when I became homeless. I got a non-molestation order against my dad, but my mum sided with him and asked me to leave so that he could come back to live at the family home. It was extremely scary and upsetting to be pushed out and have nowhere to go.
I found CENS number and phoned up. Two days later I was being booked in! I was terrified of what it would be like, I had all sorts of pre-conceived ideas, but the reality was very different. Staff were friendly and helped me settle in quickly. What I really appreciated is that they don’t talk down to you. Two female residents introduced themselves that first night and we sat in the CENS garden for ages. They told me their stories about how they came to be homeless which helped me realise that I was not alone. Having older women to talk to helped me feel safe.
Having to be out of the shelter 9.30-5pm was very good for my mental health. It gave me a routine and structure. If I had been able to stay in my room the whole time, I might have had too much time on my hands to dwell on my past.
After a few months of being in the main shelter, I was moved to the move-on house. Moving over was a bit nerve-wracking at first, but I have really enjoyed living more independently. The house is lovely, I have a big room and get on well with my house mates. Since living here, I have completed a level 2 qualification in childcare, thanks to the work coach at the Job Centre putting me in touch with Shaw Trust. I am going to start a level 3 apprenticeship soon which I’m looking forward to as I would like to work with children.
I also have a great housing officer from the council who, due to my disabilities, gave me a higher banding on the social housing list. This means that I will be able to get my own flat at some point. I have a few worries about living totally independently but know that I can talk to CENS staff about how to set up paying my own bills and budgeting.
I am re-building my relationship with my mum and my younger siblings as well. I have been through a lot, but I am taking the right steps and know that there is support out there for anyone in my position.”
If you or someone you know is facing homelessness, please call CENS on 01206 549885. To support people like Jane, please donate to CENS here.
*Names have been changed.
